Chapter 10: What to do?
Lately I have been receiving tons of emails asking about What to do.
That's indeed a very common question as we are confused by all the information we read.
Some say that we should really remove all the thoughts of our love and just focus on ourselves and MOVE ON from our love.
Some say that we can just focus on the reality which we actually have already reunited with our love.
It's for real very confusing because You are searching METHODS which can help you to bring your love back faster. You wonder which methods will work the best for you.
Personally, I didn't remove any thoughts of my love. I miss him every day and night and it's really hard to forget him etc. I searched for lots of methods and SERIOUSLY, I even had the urge to purchase those ' Magic recovery' system to get my love back. I was as confused as you are as there were naysayers and tons of methods available online.
IF you want to know what is the right thing for you to do, ask your heart for the answer.
Whatever makes you feel good, that must be right for you.
I visualized every night before i sleep because I worried if i didnt do that, LOA wouldnt work for me. ( I was being paranoid lol)
I thought that visualize every night makes me feel secure and better than simply forget my love.
So actually its totally up to you, DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEST.
Please don't think that you can't attract your love back or everything aren't going right.
Whatever you believe, you attract.
P.S. I'm writing my new book and I would include some frequently asked questions in it. So let me know if you have any questions in your mind.
"You have the ability to attract a breakup, and strictly speaking, you also have the ability to attract your lost love back. Don't give up :)" --excerpt from my unreleased book haha
2014年7月29日 星期二
2014年6月11日 星期三
Chapter 9: Cyber Stalking?
Chapter 9: Cyber Stalking?
With the technological advancement, we can connect with one another easily throughout different social networks or apps. This not only brings us convenience, but also a habit of "stalking" others.
Especially after those terrible breakups, we will just constantly check our love's updates, when he/she upload a status, you would over analyse it, asking yourself " is he talking about me? Is he missing me? " etc; you may check who has liked his status and start to be sad when you see he added some girls you don't know. (I've been there, did the same crazy thing lol); when he post a photo, you will try to look at the picture closely to see if there's any other women;You constantly check his "last seen" on whatsapp and think if he's talking/flirting with other women.
If you found that the aforementioned are what you have been doing since the breakup, you need to stop it. As this cyber stalking will actually lowers your vibration, you will be sad/frustrated.
You may ask: how to change this habit then?
-Well, you can try to choose not to read anything about them( that requires a lot of self control lol, not many of us can do that)
-You can choose to block them, but if I were you, I won't do that
-Hide him from your newsfeed! Pretend that he hasn't updated at all.
-Turn off your last seen timestamp! ( I did that and it works for me, I have stopped checking his last seen since I couldn't see that anymore)
-distract yourself, do something else. Don't think too much
-Have fun with your life, go to party etc.
This requires your self control, stop CYBER STALKING.
Raise your vibrations.
I actually told my boyfriend about that cyber stalking thing during our breakup, he told me that he think that's creepy. You see, if your love found that you constantly stalk them, they may feel uncomfortable about that lol You instantly became the Crazy ex lol So stop this habit as soon as possible, you will find that you are less attach to him this way.
With the technological advancement, we can connect with one another easily throughout different social networks or apps. This not only brings us convenience, but also a habit of "stalking" others.
Especially after those terrible breakups, we will just constantly check our love's updates, when he/she upload a status, you would over analyse it, asking yourself " is he talking about me? Is he missing me? " etc; you may check who has liked his status and start to be sad when you see he added some girls you don't know. (I've been there, did the same crazy thing lol); when he post a photo, you will try to look at the picture closely to see if there's any other women;You constantly check his "last seen" on whatsapp and think if he's talking/flirting with other women.
If you found that the aforementioned are what you have been doing since the breakup, you need to stop it. As this cyber stalking will actually lowers your vibration, you will be sad/frustrated.
You may ask: how to change this habit then?
-Well, you can try to choose not to read anything about them( that requires a lot of self control lol, not many of us can do that)
-You can choose to block them, but if I were you, I won't do that
-Hide him from your newsfeed! Pretend that he hasn't updated at all.
-Turn off your last seen timestamp! ( I did that and it works for me, I have stopped checking his last seen since I couldn't see that anymore)
-distract yourself, do something else. Don't think too much
-Have fun with your life, go to party etc.
This requires your self control, stop CYBER STALKING.
Raise your vibrations.
I actually told my boyfriend about that cyber stalking thing during our breakup, he told me that he think that's creepy. You see, if your love found that you constantly stalk them, they may feel uncomfortable about that lol You instantly became the Crazy ex lol So stop this habit as soon as possible, you will find that you are less attach to him this way.
2014年2月14日 星期五
Chapter 8: Help me please
Chapter 8: Help. Me. Please.
This is the sentence which people really love to use when they reach out for help. It's understandable, it's totally normal. I can't think of a reason of why can't you act so desperate, UNLESS you really want to get your love back.
Let's refresh our memories, a few chapters back, I talked about how to get rid of desperation, I gave some advice which totally work for me and my friends. So, how come there are still so many emails asking for help sounds like "if you don't reply me now, I will die! I really need your help, urgently!"?
It is not really that difficult to answer at all, I have helped so many people, and usually what I do is to ask them to adjust their attitude before they they come and ask for help.
The core part of this PROBLEM is : you CANT LET GO.
How many of you will comment on some success stories? Telling the storyteller that " Your story give me hope. Thank you. " Okay , stop the hypocrisy, does it really give up hope as you claimed? Every success story that you read actually makes you question on when will your love come back, sometimes you will be envious. I knew that as we are human beings, we will be jealous when someone has their dreams come true when ours haven't.
I suppose if you are really believe on something, you don't really need others to give you hope. You need others to give you hope because you are NOT ON THE RIGHT TRACK. Faith is something that you NEED, it is REQUIRED. Even people around you telling you that "it's not possible", you still have to believe "it's possible".
Letting go doesn't mean giving up. LETTING GO IS TO TRUST THE UNIVERSE WILL GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT.
People ask "how to be detached, or to let go?" You don't need to be taught on that as that comes from within. FAITH is the key. You trust that wholeheartedly then you won't doubt on what is going to happen. People said we are attached as we care too much, in my perspective, you are attached because you doubt and you are worried that things aren't going well.
So basically, you have to develop that unwavering faith.
If you and your love is in NC, please just hide his stories on the newsfeed, use this period of time to get yourself back. Stop thinking about negative things, but to be CALM and reassure yourself that he/she belongs to you.
If you and your love is in contact, be COOL and CALM. Don't OVER ANALYSIS what he/she says or does. This may be difficult at first but you will get better and better .
Please MAKE YOURSELF BELIEVE. Self confident is also important, try to feel like that every one who have met you will definitely fall in love with you, you have that feeling then you will understand your charisma can't be underestimated.
Here is A little task for you to do
Get a notebook, the one that only you will read
Write down every details of the happy/romantic moments that you both shared in the past
Don't write any sad feelings.
Be as positive as possible, you have to make sure that you will be happy after reading what you write.
You can send the story to me to let me check if there is any negative thoughts hiding in your words.
Read these stories when you doubt, when you are sad or when you are bored.
You can also put some photos you have in there. FEEL that LOVE
This is the sentence which people really love to use when they reach out for help. It's understandable, it's totally normal. I can't think of a reason of why can't you act so desperate, UNLESS you really want to get your love back.
Let's refresh our memories, a few chapters back, I talked about how to get rid of desperation, I gave some advice which totally work for me and my friends. So, how come there are still so many emails asking for help sounds like "if you don't reply me now, I will die! I really need your help, urgently!"?
It is not really that difficult to answer at all, I have helped so many people, and usually what I do is to ask them to adjust their attitude before they they come and ask for help.
The core part of this PROBLEM is : you CANT LET GO.
How many of you will comment on some success stories? Telling the storyteller that " Your story give me hope. Thank you. " Okay , stop the hypocrisy, does it really give up hope as you claimed? Every success story that you read actually makes you question on when will your love come back, sometimes you will be envious. I knew that as we are human beings, we will be jealous when someone has their dreams come true when ours haven't.
I suppose if you are really believe on something, you don't really need others to give you hope. You need others to give you hope because you are NOT ON THE RIGHT TRACK. Faith is something that you NEED, it is REQUIRED. Even people around you telling you that "it's not possible", you still have to believe "it's possible".
Letting go doesn't mean giving up. LETTING GO IS TO TRUST THE UNIVERSE WILL GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT.
People ask "how to be detached, or to let go?" You don't need to be taught on that as that comes from within. FAITH is the key. You trust that wholeheartedly then you won't doubt on what is going to happen. People said we are attached as we care too much, in my perspective, you are attached because you doubt and you are worried that things aren't going well.
So basically, you have to develop that unwavering faith.
If you and your love is in NC, please just hide his stories on the newsfeed, use this period of time to get yourself back. Stop thinking about negative things, but to be CALM and reassure yourself that he/she belongs to you.
If you and your love is in contact, be COOL and CALM. Don't OVER ANALYSIS what he/she says or does. This may be difficult at first but you will get better and better .
Please MAKE YOURSELF BELIEVE. Self confident is also important, try to feel like that every one who have met you will definitely fall in love with you, you have that feeling then you will understand your charisma can't be underestimated.
Here is A little task for you to do
Get a notebook, the one that only you will read
Write down every details of the happy/romantic moments that you both shared in the past
Don't write any sad feelings.
Be as positive as possible, you have to make sure that you will be happy after reading what you write.
You can send the story to me to let me check if there is any negative thoughts hiding in your words.
Read these stories when you doubt, when you are sad or when you are bored.
You can also put some photos you have in there. FEEL that LOVE
2013年12月31日 星期二
Guide - getting lost love back Chapter 7
Chapter 7, I'm so lost
"Hi, I broke up with my love several months ago and I'm so thankful that you post up a guide, it helps me to rebuild my faith and I LOVE READING IT! But the problem is, I was so positive before and now I felt so sad, I am so lost. What should I do?"
That is one of the most commonly asked question.
Some even told me that even they think positively but bad things still happen
now you ask me WHY
SO..Basically we will face negative things even we are positive, we are experiencing the CONTRAST
We don't know always know what we actually want, once you know what you don't want, then you will know what you want. These negative things are helping us actually.
That does explains he WHY
If you have been following my guide, I think that most likely you would be gaining positive thoughts instead of negative thoughts. You probably think about your future with your love, but when you are expecting positive things will happen, negative things emerge instead. You are so frustrated that you ask yourself "what have I done wrong this time?", you did nothing wrong.
The universe send you some negative things(e.g. Your love is dating someone new) so that you can realize what you truly want (I.e. Your love is only dating you not others)
By constantly giving you this contrast, you are actually given a chance to think whether this guy/woman is who you truly wants.
If you think that he is the one, then just keep believing and ignore the current reality
2013年12月26日 星期四
Guide- getting lost love back Chapter 6
Chapter 6, ITS NOT WORKING..FOR ME..AT LEAST
I wonder how many of you think like that. Whenever someone uploaded a success stories and you read it, a part of you feel so happy for them, the other part of you are envious, getting negative thoughts like "I am never going to get what I want. LOA is not working for me."
No matter how hard you try to deny the existence of LOA, LOA exists no matter what
Things take time to happen doubtlessly.
When you place an order in McDonald, even it is already fast food, you still gotta wait for your food.
So basically, I don't think you will doubt that McDonald isn't going to give you the food ordered, right?
You may say that, "oh, I didn't doubt because I paid for the food,"
True. But for LOA, you gotta pay as well. You have to PAY with your effort, i.e. inspired action
So why doubting it won't work?
Rome isn't built in a day, getting you love back won't be happening in a day as well.
Some needs days,some needs months, some needs years for getting their love back
If you are really that determined to get your love back, stop whining, spend some time on planning "where to go or what to do" after you both reconciled.
Very often, people are obsessed with signs, they get so excited about it.
"Oh my god! I saw something like this! Do you think it is a sign?"
What you just asked is seeking for reassurance, you hope that you are on the right track. Well, next time, when you see any signs, don't get over-excited. Just say thanks and let it go.
You noticed about the signs, then soon enough you will remember that your love isn't these yet, and you started to say something like " I am one step closer to get my love back. But when?"
You may attract more signs, but not the real manifestation.
That's why I don't want you to be obsessed with the signs, don't over analysis it. Let things unfold themselves
I am sure that you will get what you want. Don't think that LOA won't work, it is working for you, me and everyone else.
Remember to stay happy and be positive. Universe has it's own way to help you reconcile with your love
2013年12月24日 星期二
Guide on getting lost love back: chapter 5
Chapter 5 --- After removing limiting beliefs (con't)
So now you have your limiting beliefs removed, you are not sad and you don't have any negative feelings when you think about your love or your breakup. Suppose you have reflected on what you did wrong in the relationship (e.g. Being too bossy, always having negative thoughts ), spot those wrongdoings out! Try to change those bad things into good ones if you want a BETTER, LONGLASTING relationship with your love again
I think that if you want to attract your love back, you definitely want to have a long lasting one and would not want to breakup again
(Unfortunately, some of us are able to attract our love back but negative thoughts stated to pop up again, and they lost their love again. Some may even think that these all happened because of they weren't meant to me)
Come on, we know about LOA, clearly you know that the breakup is attracted by ourselves, there's no one to blame.
They said that attracting back an ex is more difficult than anything else as ex is limited while other things (e.g. New car, new phone) aren't limited. I must say that it depends on how you think about it. I think it's easy to attract my love back, then it is easy. If you think that you have to face tons of difficulties when you are attracting your love back, well, then you have to.
But since you have removed your limiting beliefs, I'm so sure that most of the time you are able to stay positive
What to do after removing the limiting belief ?
1. Make sure you really want your love back
2. Let go of the desperation
3. Visualise
4. Write on a piece of paper or in a notebook, writing about what you want to happen
5. Stay positive
It's that easy! Of course you can do something else you like, find something to do to help you believe that your desire will manifest.
After you removed your limiting beliefs, there might be something else bothering you for example, your love is still with another girl/guy, your love is still blocking you
That would really make us feel frustrated easily.
Don't waste your effort by giving up and thinking that everything isn't working for you. In fact, it is working for you. But do you trust LOA 100%? If you do, why would you even have that "it never works for me" thoughts?
Stop checking whether your love has unblocked you or not, stop checking their what's app lastseen, stop cyber stalking them . This would make life easier. You have to GET YOURSELF back before. You can GET them back. Who will love a clingy person? Love yourself before loving others!
If you trust me, please stop stalking them or check whether they have unblocked you or not. Just believe that they will soon unblock you, this Is the only thought you should have! Instead of focusing "he/she is still blocking me", you should really put your focus on somewhere else . You have to believe that your love will soon unblock you, and you don't have to worry about that. They will just unblock you like you wish.
As for the "current gf/bf", they are not important at all. To make ourselves feel better, why don't you think like: "that man/woman is just a tool for my love to realize I am the one for him/her. That man/woman can never replace me and my love only loves me,not him/her"
My best friend knew nothing about LOA before, I taught her about that and coached her all along the way. Her bf had a gf that time (they broke up because that guy loved that woman). She was just as desperate as I was. But she succeeded at last, she got her guy back like I do. From this short story, you can tell that "current gf/bf" isn't that important.
YOU ARE THE ONE FOR YOUR LOVE SO DONT GIVE UP!
I lost myself in fear of losing you
I wish I didn't do
But I did
I lost my own, my own identity
Forgot that you picked me for me
But now, I don't negotiate with insecurities
They always seem to get the best of me
I found I had to love myself, the way I wanted you to...
...love me,
No more second guessing
No, there’s no more questioning
I’ll be the one defining who I'm gonna be
No concealing feelings, or changing seasonally
I’m gonna love myself, the way I want you to love me
Sometimes I wish my skin was a costume
That I could just unzip
And strip
But who I am is who I'm meant to be
And it's who you are in love, in love with
So now, I don't negotiate with insecurities
They're gonna have to take a back seat
I know I have to love myself, the way I want you to...
...love me,
No more second guessing
No, there’s no more questioning
I’ll be the one defining who I'm gonna be
No concealing feelings, or changing seasonally
I’m gonna love myself, the way I want you to love me
<love me--Katy perry>
So now you have your limiting beliefs removed, you are not sad and you don't have any negative feelings when you think about your love or your breakup. Suppose you have reflected on what you did wrong in the relationship (e.g. Being too bossy, always having negative thoughts ), spot those wrongdoings out! Try to change those bad things into good ones if you want a BETTER, LONGLASTING relationship with your love again
I think that if you want to attract your love back, you definitely want to have a long lasting one and would not want to breakup again
(Unfortunately, some of us are able to attract our love back but negative thoughts stated to pop up again, and they lost their love again. Some may even think that these all happened because of they weren't meant to me)
Come on, we know about LOA, clearly you know that the breakup is attracted by ourselves, there's no one to blame.
They said that attracting back an ex is more difficult than anything else as ex is limited while other things (e.g. New car, new phone) aren't limited. I must say that it depends on how you think about it. I think it's easy to attract my love back, then it is easy. If you think that you have to face tons of difficulties when you are attracting your love back, well, then you have to.
But since you have removed your limiting beliefs, I'm so sure that most of the time you are able to stay positive
What to do after removing the limiting belief ?
1. Make sure you really want your love back
2. Let go of the desperation
3. Visualise
4. Write on a piece of paper or in a notebook, writing about what you want to happen
5. Stay positive
It's that easy! Of course you can do something else you like, find something to do to help you believe that your desire will manifest.
After you removed your limiting beliefs, there might be something else bothering you for example, your love is still with another girl/guy, your love is still blocking you
That would really make us feel frustrated easily.
Don't waste your effort by giving up and thinking that everything isn't working for you. In fact, it is working for you. But do you trust LOA 100%? If you do, why would you even have that "it never works for me" thoughts?
Stop checking whether your love has unblocked you or not, stop checking their what's app lastseen, stop cyber stalking them . This would make life easier. You have to GET YOURSELF back before. You can GET them back. Who will love a clingy person? Love yourself before loving others!
If you trust me, please stop stalking them or check whether they have unblocked you or not. Just believe that they will soon unblock you, this Is the only thought you should have! Instead of focusing "he/she is still blocking me", you should really put your focus on somewhere else . You have to believe that your love will soon unblock you, and you don't have to worry about that. They will just unblock you like you wish.
As for the "current gf/bf", they are not important at all. To make ourselves feel better, why don't you think like: "that man/woman is just a tool for my love to realize I am the one for him/her. That man/woman can never replace me and my love only loves me,not him/her"
My best friend knew nothing about LOA before, I taught her about that and coached her all along the way. Her bf had a gf that time (they broke up because that guy loved that woman). She was just as desperate as I was. But she succeeded at last, she got her guy back like I do. From this short story, you can tell that "current gf/bf" isn't that important.
YOU ARE THE ONE FOR YOUR LOVE SO DONT GIVE UP!
I lost myself in fear of losing you
I wish I didn't do
But I did
I lost my own, my own identity
Forgot that you picked me for me
But now, I don't negotiate with insecurities
They always seem to get the best of me
I found I had to love myself, the way I wanted you to...
...love me,
No more second guessing
No, there’s no more questioning
I’ll be the one defining who I'm gonna be
No concealing feelings, or changing seasonally
I’m gonna love myself, the way I want you to love me
Sometimes I wish my skin was a costume
That I could just unzip
And strip
But who I am is who I'm meant to be
And it's who you are in love, in love with
So now, I don't negotiate with insecurities
They're gonna have to take a back seat
I know I have to love myself, the way I want you to...
...love me,
No more second guessing
No, there’s no more questioning
I’ll be the one defining who I'm gonna be
No concealing feelings, or changing seasonally
I’m gonna love myself, the way I want you to love me
<love me--Katy perry>
Guide on getting lost love back: Chapter 4
Chapter 4 - Limiting beliefs
So before I start, I must say that I am very happy that you all appreciate what I do, I mean there are haters sending me emails tell me that I suck and stuff like that.
I am typing this chapter on my new iPad which I attractd months ago! I am so happy right now lol
Okay, From my memory, I remember that I said that I would talk about limiting beliefs in this chapter
And actually I don't think this chapter would be very long as many of us know what is limiting beliefs, just you need to be reminded on that.
Limiting beliefs is really what blocking our manifestations .
A quick example : you keep believing that he is going to meet another girl and doesn't love you anymore
Our limiting beliefs usually will manifest while our true desire takes a longer time
This is because we NEVER DOUBT our negative thoughts but we doubt a lot on what we want
I always tell others that "The more you believe ,the faster the manifestation will be"
There are cases that our negative thoughts become true and we started to feel like giving up. We started to care less about that single person and live our life on our own . This is when the miracle happens! You are DETACHED and you don't doubt your desire, you don't put your focus on your limiting beliefs , so don't be panicked if your love initiate contact with you again!
How to remove limiting beliefs then ?
Well, I tried NAPS and hooponopono. By chanting that four mantras will distract you for a bit. If you don't like chanting, then you can sing it lol there's a version of hooponopono on YouTube , quite nice actually.
NAPS is okay, I just do it for a month only. I found that it's quite creepy to listen to my own voice when I sleep lol But it may probably work for somebody, I am not sure about that. If you are interested on that , you can go search for it on this forum .
(Meditation is okay as well. I occasionally do it. I live in a city so I rarely have time to go to countryside to do mediation lol. In country side / forest , there's a lot of energy . You can go watch Teal Scott's video on meditation. However, this is only to use to quiet your mind for awhile)
Remove the limiting beliefs then you will totally believe that your desire will become true
If you have a a hard time on removing the limiting belief, just take your time and no need to force yourself to remove that fast. It takes time to remove something deeply rooted into our minds. So don't blame yourself for having these limiting beliefs
So before I start, I must say that I am very happy that you all appreciate what I do, I mean there are haters sending me emails tell me that I suck and stuff like that.
I am typing this chapter on my new iPad which I attractd months ago! I am so happy right now lol
Okay, From my memory, I remember that I said that I would talk about limiting beliefs in this chapter
And actually I don't think this chapter would be very long as many of us know what is limiting beliefs, just you need to be reminded on that.
Limiting beliefs is really what blocking our manifestations .
A quick example : you keep believing that he is going to meet another girl and doesn't love you anymore
Our limiting beliefs usually will manifest while our true desire takes a longer time
This is because we NEVER DOUBT our negative thoughts but we doubt a lot on what we want
I always tell others that "The more you believe ,the faster the manifestation will be"
There are cases that our negative thoughts become true and we started to feel like giving up. We started to care less about that single person and live our life on our own . This is when the miracle happens! You are DETACHED and you don't doubt your desire, you don't put your focus on your limiting beliefs , so don't be panicked if your love initiate contact with you again!
How to remove limiting beliefs then ?
Well, I tried NAPS and hooponopono. By chanting that four mantras will distract you for a bit. If you don't like chanting, then you can sing it lol there's a version of hooponopono on YouTube , quite nice actually.
NAPS is okay, I just do it for a month only. I found that it's quite creepy to listen to my own voice when I sleep lol But it may probably work for somebody, I am not sure about that. If you are interested on that , you can go search for it on this forum .
(Meditation is okay as well. I occasionally do it. I live in a city so I rarely have time to go to countryside to do mediation lol. In country side / forest , there's a lot of energy . You can go watch Teal Scott's video on meditation. However, this is only to use to quiet your mind for awhile)
Remove the limiting beliefs then you will totally believe that your desire will become true
If you have a a hard time on removing the limiting belief, just take your time and no need to force yourself to remove that fast. It takes time to remove something deeply rooted into our minds. So don't blame yourself for having these limiting beliefs
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