Chapter 8: Help me please

Chapter 8: Help. Me. Please.

This is the sentence which people really love to use when they reach out for help. It's understandable, it's totally normal. I can't think of a reason of why can't you act so desperate, UNLESS you really want to get your love back. 
Let's refresh our memories, a few chapters back, I talked about how to get rid of desperation, I gave some advice which totally work for me and my friends. So, how come there are still so many emails asking for help sounds like "if you don't reply me now, I will die! I really need your help, urgently!"?

It is not really that difficult to answer at all, I have helped so many people, and usually what I do is to ask them to adjust their attitude before they they come and ask for help. 
The core part of this PROBLEM is : you CANT LET GO.
How many of you will comment on some success stories? Telling the storyteller that " Your story give me hope. Thank you. " Okay , stop the hypocrisy, does it really give up hope as you claimed? Every success story that you read actually makes you question on when will your love come back, sometimes you will be envious. I knew that as we are human beings, we will be jealous when someone has their dreams come true when ours haven't. 

I suppose if you are really believe on something, you don't really need others to give you hope. You need others to give you hope because you are NOT ON THE RIGHT TRACK. Faith is something that you NEED, it is REQUIRED. Even people around you telling you that "it's not possible", you still have to believe "it's possible". 

Letting go doesn't mean giving up. LETTING GO IS TO TRUST THE UNIVERSE WILL GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT. 

People ask "how to be detached, or to let go?" You don't need to be taught on that as that comes from within. FAITH is the key. You trust that wholeheartedly then you won't doubt on what is going to happen. People said we are attached as we care too much, in my perspective, you are attached because you doubt and you are worried that things aren't going well. 

So basically, you have to develop that unwavering faith. 
If you and your love is in NC, please just hide his stories on the newsfeed, use this period of time to get yourself back. Stop thinking about negative things, but to be CALM and reassure yourself that he/she belongs to you.
If you and your love is in contact, be COOL and CALM. Don't OVER ANALYSIS what he/she says or does. This may be difficult at first but you will get better and better .

Please MAKE YOURSELF BELIEVE. Self confident is also important, try to feel like that every one who have met you will definitely fall in love with you, you have that feeling then you will understand your charisma can't be underestimated. 

Here is A little task for you to do
Get a notebook, the one that only you will read 
Write down every details of the happy/romantic moments that you both shared in the past
Don't write any sad feelings. 
Be as positive as possible, you have to make sure that you will be happy after reading what you write.
You can send the story to me to let me check if there is any negative thoughts hiding in your words.
Read these stories when you doubt, when you are sad or when you are bored. 
You can also put some photos you have in there. FEEL that LOVE