Chapter 10 : What to do?

Chapter 10: What to do?

Lately I have been receiving tons of emails asking about What to do.
That's indeed a very common question as we are confused by all the information we read.
Some say that we should really remove all the thoughts of our love and just focus on ourselves and MOVE ON from our love.
Some say that we can just focus on the reality which we actually have already reunited with our love.
It's for real very confusing because You are searching METHODS which can help you to bring your love back faster. You wonder which methods will work the best for you.

Personally, I didn't remove any thoughts of my love. I miss him every day and night and it's really hard to forget him etc. I searched for lots of methods and SERIOUSLY, I even had the urge to purchase those '  Magic recovery' system to get my love back. I was as confused as you are as there were naysayers and tons of methods available online.

IF you want to know what is the right thing for you to do, ask your heart for the answer.
Whatever makes you feel good, that must be right for you.
I visualized every night before i sleep because I worried if i didnt do that, LOA wouldnt work for me. ( I was being paranoid lol)
I thought that visualize every night makes me feel secure and better than simply forget my love.
So actually its totally up to you, DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEST.

Please don't think that you can't attract your love back or everything aren't going right.
Whatever you believe, you attract.

P.S. I'm writing my new book and I would include some frequently asked questions in it. So let me know if you have any questions in your mind.
"You have the ability to attract a breakup, and strictly speaking, you also have the ability to attract your lost love back. Don't give up :)" --excerpt from my unreleased book haha

Chapter 9: Cyber Stalking?

Chapter 9: Cyber Stalking?

With the technological advancement, we can connect with one another easily throughout different social networks or apps. This not only brings us convenience, but also a habit of "stalking" others.

Especially after those terrible breakups, we will just constantly check our love's updates, when he/she upload a status, you would over analyse it, asking yourself " is he talking about me? Is he missing me? " etc; you may check who has liked his status and start to be sad when you see he added some girls you don't know. (I've been there, did the same crazy thing lol); when he post a photo, you will try to look at the picture closely to see if there's any other women;You constantly check his "last seen" on whatsapp and think if he's talking/flirting with other women.

If you found that the aforementioned are what you have been doing since the breakup, you need to stop it. As this cyber stalking will actually lowers your vibration, you will be sad/frustrated.

You may ask: how to change this habit then?
-Well, you can try to choose not to read anything about them( that requires a lot of self control lol, not many of us can do that)
-You can choose to block them, but if I were you, I won't do that
-Hide him from your newsfeed! Pretend that he hasn't updated at all.
-Turn off your last seen timestamp! ( I did that and it works for me, I have stopped checking his last seen since I couldn't see that anymore)
-distract yourself, do something else. Don't think too much
-Have fun with your life, go to party etc.

This requires your self control, stop CYBER STALKING.
Raise your vibrations.
I actually told my boyfriend about that cyber stalking thing during our breakup, he told me that he think that's creepy. You see, if your love found that you constantly stalk them, they may feel uncomfortable about that lol You instantly became the Crazy ex lol So stop this habit as soon as possible, you will find that you are less attach to him this way.

Chapter 8: Help me please

Chapter 8: Help. Me. Please.

This is the sentence which people really love to use when they reach out for help. It's understandable, it's totally normal. I can't think of a reason of why can't you act so desperate, UNLESS you really want to get your love back. 
Let's refresh our memories, a few chapters back, I talked about how to get rid of desperation, I gave some advice which totally work for me and my friends. So, how come there are still so many emails asking for help sounds like "if you don't reply me now, I will die! I really need your help, urgently!"?

It is not really that difficult to answer at all, I have helped so many people, and usually what I do is to ask them to adjust their attitude before they they come and ask for help. 
The core part of this PROBLEM is : you CANT LET GO.
How many of you will comment on some success stories? Telling the storyteller that " Your story give me hope. Thank you. " Okay , stop the hypocrisy, does it really give up hope as you claimed? Every success story that you read actually makes you question on when will your love come back, sometimes you will be envious. I knew that as we are human beings, we will be jealous when someone has their dreams come true when ours haven't. 

I suppose if you are really believe on something, you don't really need others to give you hope. You need others to give you hope because you are NOT ON THE RIGHT TRACK. Faith is something that you NEED, it is REQUIRED. Even people around you telling you that "it's not possible", you still have to believe "it's possible". 

Letting go doesn't mean giving up. LETTING GO IS TO TRUST THE UNIVERSE WILL GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT. 

People ask "how to be detached, or to let go?" You don't need to be taught on that as that comes from within. FAITH is the key. You trust that wholeheartedly then you won't doubt on what is going to happen. People said we are attached as we care too much, in my perspective, you are attached because you doubt and you are worried that things aren't going well. 

So basically, you have to develop that unwavering faith. 
If you and your love is in NC, please just hide his stories on the newsfeed, use this period of time to get yourself back. Stop thinking about negative things, but to be CALM and reassure yourself that he/she belongs to you.
If you and your love is in contact, be COOL and CALM. Don't OVER ANALYSIS what he/she says or does. This may be difficult at first but you will get better and better .

Please MAKE YOURSELF BELIEVE. Self confident is also important, try to feel like that every one who have met you will definitely fall in love with you, you have that feeling then you will understand your charisma can't be underestimated. 

Here is A little task for you to do
Get a notebook, the one that only you will read 
Write down every details of the happy/romantic moments that you both shared in the past
Don't write any sad feelings. 
Be as positive as possible, you have to make sure that you will be happy after reading what you write.
You can send the story to me to let me check if there is any negative thoughts hiding in your words.
Read these stories when you doubt, when you are sad or when you are bored. 
You can also put some photos you have in there. FEEL that LOVE