Guide - getting lost love back Chapter 7

Chapter 7, I'm so lost

"Hi, I broke up with my love several months ago and I'm so thankful that you post up a guide, it helps me to rebuild my faith and I LOVE READING IT! But the problem is, I was so positive before and now I felt so sad, I am so lost. What should I do?"

That is one of the most commonly asked question.

Some even told me that even they think positively but bad things still happen

now you ask me WHY

SO..Basically we will face negative things even we are positive, we are experiencing the CONTRAST

We don't know always know what we actually want, once you know what you don't want, then you will know what you want. These negative things are helping us actually. 

That does explains he WHY

If you have been following my guide, I think that most likely you would be gaining positive thoughts instead of negative thoughts. You probably think about your future with your love, but when you are expecting positive things will happen, negative things emerge instead. You are so frustrated that you ask yourself "what have I done wrong this time?", you did nothing wrong.

The universe send you some negative things(e.g. Your love is dating someone new) so that you can realize what you truly want (I.e. Your love is only dating you not others)

By constantly giving you this contrast, you are actually given a chance to think whether this guy/woman is who you truly wants.

If you think that he is the one, then just keep believing and ignore the current reality

Guide- getting lost love back Chapter 6

Chapter 6, ITS NOT WORKING..FOR ME..AT LEAST

I wonder how many of you think like that. Whenever someone uploaded a success stories and you read it, a part of you feel so happy for them, the other part of you are envious, getting negative thoughts like "I am never going to get what I want. LOA is not working for me."

No matter how hard you try to deny the existence of LOA, LOA exists no matter what

Things take time to happen doubtlessly.

When you place an order in McDonald, even it is already fast food, you still gotta wait for your food.

So basically, I don't think you will doubt that McDonald isn't going to give you the food ordered, right?

You may say that, "oh, I didn't doubt because I paid for the food,"

True. But for LOA, you gotta pay as well. You have to PAY with your effort, i.e. inspired action 

So why doubting it won't work?

Rome isn't built in a day, getting you love back won't be happening in a day as well.

Some needs days,some needs months, some needs years for getting their love back

If you are really that determined to get your love back, stop whining, spend some time on planning "where to go or what to do" after you both reconciled.

Very often, people are obsessed with signs, they get so excited about it.

"Oh my god! I saw something like this! Do you think it is a sign?" 

What you just asked is seeking for reassurance, you hope that you are on the right track. Well, next time, when you see any signs, don't get over-excited. Just say thanks and let it go. 

You noticed about the signs, then soon enough you will remember that your love isn't these yet, and you started to say something like " I am one step closer to get my love back. But when?"

You may attract more signs, but not the real manifestation. 

That's why I don't want you to be obsessed with the signs, don't over analysis it. Let things unfold themselves

I am sure that you will get what you want. Don't think that LOA won't work, it is working for you, me and everyone else. 

Remember to stay happy and be positive. Universe has it's own way to help you reconcile with your love 

Guide on getting lost love back: chapter 5

Chapter 5 --- After removing limiting beliefs (con't)

So now you have your limiting beliefs removed, you are not sad and you don't have any negative feelings when you think about your love or your breakup. Suppose you have reflected on what you did wrong in the relationship (e.g. Being too bossy, always having negative thoughts ), spot those wrongdoings out! Try to change those bad things into good ones if you want a BETTER, LONGLASTING relationship with your love again

I think that if you want to attract your love back, you definitely want to have a long lasting one and would not want to breakup again
(Unfortunately, some of us are able to attract our love back but negative thoughts stated to pop up again, and they lost their love again. Some may even think that these all happened because of they weren't meant to me)
Come on, we know about LOA, clearly you know that the breakup is attracted by ourselves, there's no one to blame.

They said that attracting back an ex is more difficult than anything else as ex is limited while other things (e.g. New car, new phone) aren't limited. I must say that it depends on how you think about it. I think it's easy to attract my love back, then it is easy. If you think that you have to face tons of difficulties when you are attracting your love back, well, then you have to.

But since you have removed your limiting beliefs, I'm so sure that most of the time you are able to stay positive

What to do after removing the limiting belief ?

1. Make sure you really want your love back
2. Let go of the desperation
3. Visualise
4. Write on a piece of paper or in a notebook, writing about what you want to happen
5. Stay positive

It's that easy! Of course you can do something else you like, find something to do to help you believe that your desire will manifest.

After you removed your limiting beliefs, there might be something else bothering you for example, your love is still with another girl/guy, your love is still blocking you
That would really make us feel frustrated easily.

Don't waste your effort by giving up and thinking that everything isn't working for you. In fact, it is working for you. But do you trust LOA 100%? If you do, why would you even have that "it never works for me" thoughts?

Stop checking whether your love has unblocked you or not, stop checking their what's app lastseen, stop cyber stalking them . This would make life easier. You have to GET YOURSELF back before. You can GET them back. Who will love a clingy person? Love yourself before loving others!

If you trust me, please stop stalking them or check whether they have unblocked you or not. Just believe that they will soon unblock you, this Is the only thought you should have! Instead of focusing "he/she is still blocking me", you should really put your focus on somewhere else . You have to believe that your love will soon unblock you, and you don't have to worry about that. They will just unblock you like you wish.

As for the "current gf/bf", they are not important at all. To make ourselves feel better, why don't you think like: "that man/woman is just a tool for my love to realize I am the one for him/her. That man/woman can never replace me and my love only loves me,not him/her"
My best friend knew nothing about LOA before, I taught her about that and coached her all along the way. Her bf had a gf that time (they broke up because that guy loved that woman). She was just as desperate as I was. But she succeeded at last, she got her guy back like I do. From this short story, you can tell that "current gf/bf" isn't that important.

YOU ARE THE ONE FOR YOUR LOVE SO DONT GIVE UP!
I lost myself in fear of losing you
I wish I didn't do
But I did
I lost my own, my own identity
Forgot that you picked me for me

But now, I don't negotiate with insecurities
They always seem to get the best of me
I found I had to love myself, the way I wanted you to...

...love me,
No more second guessing
No, there’s no more questioning
I’ll be the one defining who I'm gonna be
No concealing feelings, or changing seasonally
I’m gonna love myself, the way I want you to love me

Sometimes I wish my skin was a costume
That I could just unzip
And strip
But who I am is who I'm meant to be
And it's who you are in love, in love with

So now, I don't negotiate with insecurities
They're gonna have to take a back seat
I know I have to love myself, the way I want you to...

...love me,
No more second guessing
No, there’s no more questioning
I’ll be the one defining who I'm gonna be
No concealing feelings, or changing seasonally
I’m gonna love myself, the way I want you to love me
<love me--Katy perry>

Guide on getting lost love back: Chapter 4

Chapter 4 - Limiting beliefs
So before I start, I must say that I am very happy that you all appreciate what I do, I mean there are haters sending me emails tell me that I suck and stuff like that.
I am typing this chapter on my new iPad which I attractd months ago! I am so happy right now lol

Okay, From my memory, I remember that I said that I would talk about limiting beliefs in this chapter
And actually I don't think this chapter would be very long as many of us know what is limiting beliefs, just you need to be reminded on that.


Limiting beliefs is really what blocking our manifestations .
A quick example : you keep believing that he is going to meet another girl and doesn't love you anymore
Our limiting beliefs usually will manifest while our true desire takes a longer time
This is because we NEVER DOUBT our negative thoughts but we doubt a lot on what we want
I always tell others that "The more you believe ,the faster the manifestation will be"
There are cases that our negative thoughts become true and we started to feel like giving up. We started to care less about that single person and live our life on our own . This is when the miracle happens! You are DETACHED and you don't doubt your desire, you don't put your focus on your limiting beliefs , so don't be panicked if your love initiate contact with you again!

How to remove limiting beliefs then ?
Well, I tried NAPS and hooponopono. By chanting that four mantras will distract you for a bit. If you don't like chanting, then you can sing it lol there's a version of hooponopono on YouTube , quite nice actually.
NAPS is okay, I just do it for a month only. I found that it's quite creepy to listen to my own voice when I sleep lol But it may probably work for somebody, I am not sure about that. If you are interested on that , you can go search for it on this forum .
(Meditation is okay as well. I occasionally do it. I live in a city so I rarely have time to go to countryside to do mediation lol. In country side / forest , there's a lot of energy . You can go watch Teal Scott's video on meditation. However, this is only to use to quiet your mind for awhile)
Remove the limiting beliefs then you will totally believe that your desire will become true
If you have a a hard time on removing the limiting belief, just take your time and no need to force yourself to remove that fast. It takes time to remove something deeply rooted into our minds. So don't blame yourself for having these limiting beliefs 

Guide on getting lost love back: Chapter 3

Chapter 3

If you have been following my posts, and have tried to do what I said, you should be able to be more positive and hopeful to your situation, right?
If you are still in that negative state, please don't read the followings before you are really being positive.

Those who are in GOOD states, here is something for you finally lol
(If you were in negative state, just refer back to the previous posts to be positive again before you proceed)

Some of you are curious about what I have done during my miserable breakup, and I didn't give details of that at all because I know some of you will try to do what I did blindly. I want to make sure everyone is in good state before they actually starts to attract their love back.

Today, I would love to talk about current reality.
IGNORE IT !
The whole passage today is telling you to IGNORE THE CURRENT REALITY

Your vibration emitting now is going to be transformed into manifestation tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, it will become one of the manifestations in the future
If you understand what I wrote, so do you know why I emphasis the importance of ignoring the current reality?

For those who don't want to use their brain to think now, let me make it obvious. The current reality you are experiencing right now is the manifestation of your past vibrations.

To make it easier to explain, I would give you an example.
Your love is dating with others right now, which you really really don't what that to happen. You were so focus on " I don't want my love to date others! " in the past! What you did :
A day past, everything was still perfectly fine, no sign of your love dating others
A week past, you started to doubt is it true that thy didn't date others
A month past, you were receiving news about your love dating others
Now, they are dating with others
What I am trying to illustrate is that, the more focus we put on the thoughts "they are dating others","I don't want them to date others" will only turns out to one result--- they date others

So what you are experiencing right now isn't important! The most important thing is to change your current reality by ignoring it and plant good thoughts.
If he's telling you that he doesn't love you anymore, just don't take that serious. My guy said the same thing to me as well, I chose to ignore it! See? He is loving me more and more every day.

Next chapter would be talking about limiting beliefs

Guide on getting lost love back : Chapter 2

Chapter 2--- Goodbye, desperation and frustration

Life gets easier when we only FOCUS on the positive things. Life gets hard when we keep whining about how unlucky we are. We can change the current circumstances by our thoughts.

Some of us become so clingy and needy and desperate after our breakup. The longer the time you separated with your love, The less faith you can have to believe that they will be back to you.
I have received pm from many of our members, some of them are already doing really a great job in being positive for most of their time, while some of the other members are still in that" Damn it. Where the hell is he/she? He/she is dating with others. I can't lose him. I am feeling so bad now." State.

For those who are being positive, please keep being positive as you are DEFINITELY on the right track. For those who are in that desperate and needy state, please read the followings :

I don't know much about you, I don't know what had happened between you and your love. I don't even know how determined you are when it comes to getting your love back. ( I'm sure you want to get him/her back, or else you won't be here and keep reading my posts, right?)
One thing: STOP CALLING YOUR LOVE AS AN "EX"
We already know that we have to use present tense when we write in out gratitude journal, you will write something like "I'm so grateful that my boyfriend/girlfriend is finally back in my arms", but wait, some people here who is seeking for help still call their love as an "ex". I think it would be better if you can stop calling them as your "ex".

No matter what is happening out there, even if he/she starts dating others already, don't be negative about that. It's your choice to believe in what you want. You can simply believe that " Oh well, no matter who he/she meets, they are just not as good as I am. I am the one for him/her, he/she just realize that I'm the one after dating those people"
Be confident about yourself, if you don't even believe that you still can attract them, how can you ever succeed?

There should be no more desperation and frustration
1) you know that negative feelings associated with frustration and desperation will only delay the manifestation
2) you will start to doubt LOA, as you attract more and more desperation and frustration into your life
3) you want them back right? So why don't you focus on the fact "they belongs to you"?

Tell yourself that YOUR LOVE BELONGS TO YOU, no one can ever wear take them away from you. Start building up the faith , your love will guide them home

Guide on getting lost love back: chapter 1

Chapter 1- Power of being positive

I planned on talking about the importance of positivity
Just a story to tell,
A few hours ago, my guy and I were arguing(sort of), he wanted to separate for awhile again. I was thinking negatively, and the conversation really brought me down lol As he insisted on separating. (He is very stubborn, rarely change his mind). While I was going home, I decided to think positively, I tell myself "Everything will be fine. He is not going anywhere. He will change his mind."! To cut the story in short, we didn't separate, he stayed lol

Positive thoughts attract positive results. Negative thoughts attract negative results.
Beware of what you are thinking and focusing on. From my latest experience, you can tell that POSITIVITY helps a lot

If you are still dwelling into the negativities, I think you should better change it into positivities. Getting your love back shouldn't be hopeless, you should be positive about the result.

Here's something that I would want you to do if you have free time
1) Create a playlist,
Put some uplifting songs or songs that will make you feel happy into the list
Whenever you are down, just go for the playlist and play the songs
2) Get yourself a pen and paper
Write down what you really want, (e.G. "Xxx loves me. He/she only belongs to me."), write that as many time as you can until you feel good about this thoughts
3) Distract yourself,
If you are down, and the above two methods can't help you at all. Distract yourself. Go watch a movie, go play video games, go to play sports. Whatever you like, just find something that you really like and focus on that. After doing these, you should be able to be more positive and think less on the negatives.

If you want to attract that specific person into your life, please be positive about your relationship with him/her. Believe that you both are having a great relationship. All you can think of is about the positive things

I think most of the people knows how important being positive is, I think that you can read the book "The power" by Rhonda Brynes as well. This is a book full of positivity. Whenever you are down, please find someone who is supportive and tell them about how bad you are feeling. This is one of the way to feel better as well

Yayyyy! The new site

I have been staying on the power of the Law of attraction forum and wrote my first guide

I think that I can post my guide on here so as to be more organised. 

I'm glad that my guide helped people to get through their bad times

The further chapters would be uploaded here instead of the forum

About me:

Well, there's not much to talk about lol

I'm just an ordinary girl like most of the people out there, I learnt loa after my miserable breakup, took me five months to get my stubborn guy back.

Always learning and offering advice. Writing guides and help people is what I always do.

I'm known as Zelda on the power of the law of attraction forum. 

My relationship with my guy is still going great, better and better day by day

I think that's all for now lol